The idea of Gossiping

Why is it that we hate each other? Is there a reason why we can smile in front of others but then we decide to talk behind their backs? What I want to ask all of you is that do we not only enjoy hatred, deceits and cynicism but takes pleasure from it? Don't you feel like doing so within your community strengthens the bond of your relationship with them? That "gossiping" about others makes you feel closer to the people whom you never thought was just like you before. But when we think of it, is it really a good thing? I must say, to some extent it does. Should I lie saying that doing that degrades our humane values? But then, the feeling of enjoying other's pain and misery somehow brightens our day? I know its mean but don't you think the fact that at some point in your lives you have at least gossip about someone? To me its so funny that we talk about other people behind their backs but you also realize that at another place at the same time, someone must be talking about you too. Its really, ironic really but I think its just the part of us being human. We socialize. No matter what exactly are we talking about, we do enjoy the act of being together with other people, talking about a common hatred or subject that we can both agree on. I think that is the reason why we enjoy gossiping, I'm not saying its a good thing but it's not a bad thing either. You just have to accept that the world hates and loves you at the same time. What we lack in love, we make up in the hate of hating others. It's just primal instinct I suppose, we choose to hate because its easier than love, hate makes us survive into stronger and tougher being, and hate provides us the sanity of the world. Because honestly? A world without hate? I don't want to live in that world. Its gonna be so mundane.